Divorcing when your kids are older is easier as you no longer have to worry about things like custody. What about the kids, though? Is it easier for them if you divorce when they are older?
Yes, it will be easier
As adults, your children should have more emotional resources to deal with your separation than when they were kids. They should also be more financially independent and, therefore, less affected by any hit your income takes.
On top of that, they are used to not seeing you both every day, which can be one of the hardest things for younger kids to come to terms with.
That does not mean it won’t affect them
Your kids may worry about how you will survive alone. Or about how it will affect them and their children. For example, they may fret about their upcoming wedding, wondering if they can still invite you both. They might feel sad that their kids will no longer get to enjoy a big family Christmas with Granny and Grandad.
If one of you gets a new partner, they may have trouble adjusting, feeling that this person can never match their parent. Or that the new partner may affect their future inheritance.
Set aside time to explain your decisions to your children, just as you would if they were still little. Above all, do your best to minimize any conflict, as seeing their parents fighting is never good for a child, regardless of their age. Getting accurate legal information about the divorce process will help with this, as misunderstandings can increase the propensity for conflict.