Divorce can be stressful, whether you initiated it or not. If you and your spouse are going through irreconcilable issues, and have decided you want a divorce, how you inform them is vital. It can determine the direction of your divorce.
Here are three tips to consider using.
Find a safe location
Your home is possibly the place where you and your spouse feel safe. Thus, you can have the conversation at home. However, if you believe your spouse may have an intense reaction, it may help to do it in public in a private setting to control their response. You can gauge your spouse’s possible reaction based on how they responded to matters in the past.
Do it at the right time
Timing is also vital when informing your spouse that you want a divorce. You can avoid doing it when they are leaving for work or when something important is happening. In fact, most people who tell their spouses they want a divorce in January may have decided before the holidays but waited until the season is over.
Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean staying in a marriage that hurts you for months, waiting for an event to end. You can do it as soon as you are sure you want a divorce, but be mindful of the time. For instance, you may have the conversation on the weekend when they don’t need to go to work.
Choose your words carefully
Using the “I” language can make a divorce conversation easier. Give the reasons why you want the divorce and avoid blaming them for the divorce, even though this may be the case. Also, use gentle words, but be firm.
These tips can help you have a peaceful divorce conversation with your spouse. Further, you should get professional help to approach the process with adequate information.